Beyond failures and mistakes

Beyond failures and mistakes

Could it be time to move beyond having to experience the bad times to enjoy the good times? Yes.

by Sherry Anshara — 

Is it not amazing that we have been taught to focus on our failures, mistakes and screw-ups? How wondrously functional is that? Not very. And who in the heck said that you failed or had a failure? Who said you made a mistake or screwed up? All of these statements are the emotional opinions of others.

Even if you think you screwed up, the better question is: Did you really? Or did you create the mistake to see how well you can create traumas in your life? Only you know for sure at the deepest level of your being that perhaps you created this misstep in your life to figure out what serves you and what does not.

This not only includes situations, events and conditions, but relationships as well. Oh my, repeated dysfunctional relationships? Could these relationships be self-taught experiences to figure out your own self? Could these relationships that were formed in the heat or hormones of the moment simply be a “mismatch.com” study for your own personal growth?

Are these relationships and the experiences that go along with them really a progressive process of discovering what is best for you and what is the worst nightmare? Maybe out of the nightmares, which are based on experiencing lessons and karma, you will be able to see and discern that you do not have to keep re-experiencing these so-called lessons in life.

Could it be time to move beyond having to experience the bad times to enjoy the good times? Yes. Go for the good times right off the bat. Why should you waste your valuable time going through an unnecessary lesson or crappy experience to prove that you screwed up, made a mistake or failed?

It is time to move beyond the old, tired-out, ridiculous paradigm of beating yourself up for those bad experiences. So they did not work out. Move on. Start giving yourself the accolade that you survived them. Give yourself a break and a round of applause for all you have been through.

Now give yourself a hand up, move forward and deliberately create your new experiences. Draw from your past and see all that you have done — good, bad or indifferent. Show yourself that amazing self-stamina, self-strength and self-creativity you have used in the past — but without any attachment to past dramas. Begin to appreciate yourself and stop participating in the traumas and dramas.

This is your life — now go out and experience it. Go for the gusto. It is all about the experiences and how you choose to use them.

Sherry Anshara is a medical intuitive, author, founder of the QuantumPathic Center of Consciousness, creator of the QuantumPathic® Energy Method and founder/president of the Blended Healthcare Consortium in Scottsdale, Ariz. quantumpathic.com, sherryanshara.com, sherryanshara@quantumpathic.com or 480-609-0874.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 34, Number 1, February/March 2015.