Family function or dysfunction — your choice

When you consider balance in your life, one of the first places to look is the fundamental social dynamic called the family, to see whether function or dysfunction, order or disorder, reigns.

by Dr. John F. Demartini — 

When you consider balance in your life, one of the first places to look is the fundamental social dynamic called the family, to see whether function or dysfunction, order or disorder, reigns. Though a superficial glance might seem to reveal that many, if not most families are dysfunctional, when viewed from a greater concentric sphere, they actually do have a balanced order.

If you were to have each family member make a list of as many like and dislike character traits as they could about each of the other members, you would discover that if they responded from an honest and open heart, they would end up with a complete and whole family, in perfect balance.

All the likes would balance out the dislikes. All the traits the members liked, or ones that pushed their like buttons, would balance all the traits they disliked, or ones that pushed their dislike buttons. What you would really come to find is that those character traits the members misperceive as either likes or dislikes are actually reflections of themselves. Just as the whole family maintains an ordered balance, so does each of its members.

The purpose, therefore, of the family dynamic is to push as many of the individual members’ buttons as possible, so as to initiate a higher state of unconditional love within the family. Each member participates in each of the other members’ growth or evolution, helping the others eventually attain the transcendent state of unconditional love, all by means of pushing each others’ buttons.

Family members were divinely brought together to help each other better fulfill their purposes, with no one member getting a better deal than the other. Each justly receives or experiences whatever is essential for their evolution.

Though society may perceive the world as a mess, each individual’s heart and soul knows the divine order. It is only their individual lower-minded misjudgments and self-righteous or “self-wrongeous” illusions that keep them from experiencing their family’s unconditional love.

To sit in judgment of a human being is to sit in judgment of one of God’s creatures.

Dr. John F. Demartini is a chiropractic physician, philosopher, author of nearly 40 books, inspirational speaker and featured in the movie, The Secret. www.drdemartini.com or 888-DEMARTINI.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 26, Number 3, June/July 2007.