This playful and practical guide to getting closer to your partner is indispensible for anyone striving to keep their relationship stress-free, fun and loving.
by Renee Baron
Does your partner want to go out on Friday nights when you prefer to curl up at home with a movie or a book? Does your neat-freak boyfriend always want to clean up your cluttered office? Does your wife want to plan trips six months in advance while you are a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants kind of person?
The truth is, opposites attract. People who are different from each other in fundamental ways often catch each other’s attention.
We are attracted to the very qualities we wish we had ourselves. A shy person looks for a mate who is outgoing and gregarious to provide a social circle, and the outgoing person may need to be with someone who will not compete with him for attention.
It seems like the perfect match — that is, until those very differences that originally attracted us start to drive us crazy.
Baron, an acclaimed marriage and family therapist, says to stop letting your differences drive you apart — instead let her show you how to reinvigorate your relationship today.
She unlocks the secrets of understanding personality types by using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator™ (MBTI) to provide a practical program for learning to appreciate our differences, rather than fight over them. (It is the most widely used personality indicator in the world.)
By discovering your innate personality preferences and those of your partner, you can stop having the same fights over and over again and start appreciating the gifts each of you offers in the relationship. This playful and practical guide to getting closer to your partner is indispensible for anyone striving to keep their relationship stress-free, fun and loving.
$17.99 — HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 353 Sacramento St., Ste. 500, San Francisco, CA 94111-3656.
Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 30, Number 2, February/March 2011.
April 13, 2012
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