If you are like most people, you may have started doubting your guidance and wondered if your lucky break would ever come.
by Ada Porat —
Have you ever received guidance from someone about what is going to happen in your life and then it did not pan out? Perhaps you were guided to write a book or start a Web site and then everything stalled. Did it leave you wondering what really happened there?
If you are like most people, you may have started doubting your guidance and wondered if your lucky break would ever come. When the answers to your prayers showed up, you may have dismissed them because they did not fit your expectations.
Here is another point of view to consider: Whatever shows up in your life is your answer. If you have prayed, planned and performed, yet nothing seems to come together, the evidence presents you with your answer — even if it is not what you want to hear. The answer to your prayer lies in what is happening in your life now, not in the fantasy you think may be coming.
Dreams and “guidance” not based on truth can act like viruses of the mind. They will infect you with wishful fantasies and false expectations, blinding you to what is really happening in your life. These fantasies and dreams, while alluring, can get you so caught up in illusion that you miss the real answers.
True guidance may come in many ways, but it will never create a separation between where you are and where you are going. In other words, true guidance is always compatible with your path and purpose. There will be a natural flow of synchronicity between where you are and the guidance you are receiving. True guidance will resonate with your heart’s deep knowing.
True guidance flows with congruence; false guidance deceives. If there is no congruency between the guidance you received and what shows up in your life, this should raise a red flag. As captain of your soul, your job is to discern between guidance that stirs your soul and static that strokes your ego. True guidance will never stroke your ego or feed its expectations; it will challenge you to fulfill your highest potential.
Those who do not discern between guidance and illusion will start using illusion as a defense against reality. They will become trapped in the world of dreams, fantasies and expectations. You have probably encountered some of these unfortunate souls: the ones who have taken every workshop and mastered every modality, holding themselves up as advanced gurus, while in reality, they are leeching off the kindness of others in their self-deceit. Perhaps you know someone who has lost his way to the illusion of some crackpot philosophy that promised an easy life with lots of love and riches, but who cannot come to grips with reality.
The Buddha taught that reality is your friend. Chat with reality or take a few minutes to meditate, and you will come to terms with what is, rather than the illusions of what your ego self craves, wishes for or desires. Another common example of the delusional nature of false guidance often occurs in relationships. Have you ever dated someone because of what you dreamt and hoped for him to become, instead of who he was in the moment? Recognize the red flag of delusion and drop it, or you will set yourself up for endless disappointment and hurt.
How do you activate your intuition to discern and tune into that process? You pray about things and then use what shows up in your life as a map to align with truth. Do this daily. Prayer can truly transform your destiny, so it is important to discern between prayer that comes from the ego and prayer that emanates from the soul.
Prayer that comes from ego will outline to God what to do and how to solve the problem so that your ego needs can be met. Such prayer feeds your desires to be loved, comfortable, secure, titillated and catered to. It invokes the interference of ego games, and will embroil you in attachment, seduction and bargaining with the Universe. When the bottom drops out — as it inevitably will — you need to realign with the truth of your soul instead of the desires of your ego.
Prayer from the soul simply asks for the process to unfold free from agenda; it sees asking and surrendering to the answer as one and the same. It comes from a desire for service and a willingness to surrender. When you have prayed from your soul, you will feel the sense of peace and alignment immediately.
When praying for guidance about something, recognize that true, congruent guidance comes organically and naturally. If you wonder about what you should be doing with your life, ask the question and then watch for answers to show up. If you are looking at something and the doors are not opening, stop wasting your energy on it — the answer is clear.
It may not be the appropriate time or direction to act, so instead of resisting the reality of what is, let it go so you can focus your energy on being open to the guidance that is available to you. Facing the facts and working with what is will bring you serenity. Instead of struggling with reality, align with Spirit and surrender the outcome.
Finally, recognize that Divine timing is beyond your control. If you are meant to do something, it will fall into place for you. Stop putting your life on hold for an empty dream; recognize that if reality is not supporting it, it is an illusion.
Accept what shows up, surrender attachment to the outcome, and align with Divine timing. Remember, whatever shows up in your life is indeed the answer to your prayers, even if it may not seem like it at the time.
Ada Porat is an energy kinesiologist and life coach. She uses an integrative body/mind/spirit approach to help people find meaning in their lives. 602-283-4628 or www.AdaPorat.com.
Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 29, Number 5, Oct/Nov 2010.
February 25, 2012
Life Coaching, Spiritual