Unconditional family love

Each member in any family was divinely brought together to help all the members fulfill their purpose, with no single member getting a better or worse deal than any other.

by John F. Demartini — 

Consider the balance in your life. First, though, let’s take a look at the fundamental social dynamic called the family to determine whether function or dysfunction, order or disorder, reigns. At a superficial glance, it might appear that many if not most families are dysfunctional. However, when viewed from a greater concentric sphere, they often turn out to have an actual balanced order.

If each functional member within a family were to separately make an open, honest list of as many likes and dislikes as they could about each of the other members’ character traits, you would end up with a complete and whole family portrait — one of perfect balance. The likes would balance out the dislikes. The traits that pushed the members’ “like” buttons would balance all the traits the members disliked, and vice-versa.

The character traits that each member listed would be those that in some way pushed each of his or her buttons, whether it was a like or a dislike. Interestingly, those character traits the members might misperceive as either likes or dislikes are actually reflections of themselves. Just as the family, as a whole, maintains an orderly balance, so does each of its members.

The purpose, therefore, of the whole-family dynamic is to push as many of its individual members’ buttons as possible, with a goal of initiating a higher state of unconditional love within the family. All members participate in each of the other members’ growth or evolution, each helping the others eventually attain the transcendent state of unconditional love. The only way this growth can occur is if we push each others’ buttons.

Each member in any family was divinely brought together to help all the members fulfill their purpose, with no single member getting a better or worse deal than any other. Each justly receives or experiences what is essential for his or her evolution.

Though at a glance human society may reveal it to be something of a mess, each individual’s heart and soul understands and recognizes the divine order of the Universe. It is only their individual lower-minded misjudgments and self-righteous or self-wrongeous illusions that keep them from experiencing the unconditinal love of the whole family.

To sit in judgment on a human being is to sit in judgment on one of God’s creatures.

Dr. John F. Demartini is an author and the founder of the Concourse of Wisdom School of Self-Mastery and Leadership and the creator of “The Breakthrough Experience.” 888-DEMARTINI or www.drdemartini.com.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 25, Number 4, August/September 2006.