When what you know does not work for you anymore

Every decision you make in your life is based on a memory. Sometimes those memories are good, and sometimes they are not so good.

by Mary M. Ernsberger — 

Albert Einstein once said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Did you ever watch one of those TV movies based on actual events? They always post a disclaimer that says the names have been changed to protect the innocent. Does your life ever feel like that?

Every decision you make in your life is based on a memory. Sometimes those memories are good, and sometimes they are not so good. How many times have you told yourself, “This time will be different. I know better. I have learned my lesson. I do not want to go through that again.” The question remains, do you really know better?

Deep inside where it truly counts, how do you really feel? Do you believe you deserve better? Or do you end up doing the same thing, reacting the same way, asking the same questions? Does your story ever really change?

Is the life you are living now working for you? You have the power to rewrite your story. No one else can do that for you — but you do not have to do it alone. You have already taken the first step by choosing to make a change. Step two is finding the right modality to make the changes as easy and painless as possible.

During your search for the right modality, you must determine if you are willing to be actively involved in your own well-being and whether you are willing to open up and share your innermost secrets with someone else. If not, perhaps self-help CDs or meditation can connect you with your inner desires. If you said, “Yes, I am willing to be involved! I am willing to be honest and open,” then the search for the right modality and practitioner begins.

Do not be afraid to ask for support or referrals from family or friends. Do your homework — call around or research the modalities you are drawn to on the Internet. Which modality feels right? Is it bodywork — such as polarity, cranialSacral massage, Reiki or other touch/energy therapy to release stuck energy and emotions in your body? Is it hypnotherapy or guided imagery to let go of past-life stress, anxiety, fears, phobias or other traumatic memories held in your subconscious?

If it is someone who will ask the right questions to allow you to find the answers within and for yourself, call a life coach. Is it a spiritual connection that is missing from your life? Will a traditional religious doctrine bring you the peace you desire, or is there another way? There are many spiritual counselors and nondenominational reverends and ministers available to help you.

These are just a few of the paths to wellness from which you might choose. Remember, you did not build the road you are on in one day, so finding the best crew to repave it may not happen overnight. Trust yourself and your intuition — it will never mislead you.

Mary M. Ernsberger is a master hypnotherapist, life path coach and lightworker who creates individual drug-free treatment options for children and adults labeled as ADD/ADHD, gifted or exceptional. [email protected] or www.hypno4kids.com.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 26, Number 1, February/March 2007.