Are your relationships a foggy reflection?

It is time for you to get off this merry-go-round and revise your contracts, karma, lessons and the rest of the reincarnation belief systems.

by Sherry Anshara — 

Relationships come in all forms, sizes, shapes and time frames. Relationships can be defined as personal — family, extended family, adopted family and significant others, romantic or not. Relationships can also be described as professional- or business-related — career, position, title and degree. Every relationship can be defined in some way, from friend, boss, co-worker and neighbor to acquaintance, enemy and even stranger. Yet what does all this mean in terms of relationships?

One significant aspect exists in all your relationships. You are in the center of the relationship wheel, making the wheel of your world go around. You are either spinning your relationship wheel or the emotional attachments are spinning you. Do you ever say: “I am spinning out of control; I am spinning my wheels; or my world has spun out of control with me in it?” You may say those things while at the same time pondering: What is this life all about or what is this relationship all about?

For one thing, your life is all about you and no one else. You might ask: How can that be when you have so many people coming in and out of your life? You may also have people come into your life who never leave. You have the proverbial quandary: How did I get myself into this relationship situation? You can blame it on contracts, karma or life lessons, or you just reincarnated and repeated it again and again with the same people. Well, not so fast. These are all explanations, but are they really true? Or are they just your emotional belief systems giving you excuses for staying stuck in these worlds — yours, theirs and ours — in collision with problematic relationships?

It is time for you to get off this merry-go-round and revise your contracts, karma, lessons and the rest of the reincarnation belief systems. Could it be that your problematic relationships began inside of you with your first and foremost relationship in the world? All of your other relationships are dependent upon your own perspective and your perceptions and emotions toward yourself.

The bottom line is that all of your relationships are aspects of you. Stop believing that they are reflections of you. If you continue to do so, it is like being stuck inside a dark and dirty mirror. Become the bottle of glass cleaner and wipe the mirror clean.

Just for a moment, consider that all the relationships outside of you are guided by you. What you like about the individuals in your relationships is really what you like about yourself. Give yourself a round of applause. All the things you do not like about the individual relationships in your life are the issues you are working on. Embrace those relationships you like and love. Embrace and expand upon them. And the relationships that are in collision with your world are opportunities for you to clear out issues that bother you about yourself.

Take the time to step away from the foggy mirror and see yourself for what you are and the life you have. Pat yourself on the back. Tell yourself that these relationships — good, bad or indifferent — are no longer reflections of you. Take a stand for yourself. Let go of those nonproductive emotional attachments of how things are supposed to be, should be or could be. Make your other relationships about how you would like to be in the relationships with yourself. Yes, that is “relationships,” plural.

You are multifaceted. Do not minimize yourself anymore. Look at all of your qualities and at how amazingly you created all these relationships. Collisions do not work for a harmonious and productive relationship. Be your friend first and know how it feels to be your friend. Your heart will know it; your brain will not. When you have a friendship with yourself, it is so much easier to be a friend to others, regardless of the label or column you have put them in — personal, professional or other.

Be yourself so others can be themselves with you. This makes for much deeper, more fun and more productive relationships. Stop the collision of your world with others’ worlds. This is time and energy consuming, plus it wastes your creativity. Embrace your relationship with yourself, face to face, with no more cloudy reflections. Be powerful and power filled. Embrace your self-created relationships and make your world and the worlds of others a better place in which to share yourself.

Sherry Anshara is a medical intuitive, author, founder of the QuantumPathic Center of Consciousness, creator of the QuantumPathic® Energy Method and founder/president of the Blended Healthcare Consortium in Scottsdale, Ariz. 480-609-0874, www.quantumpathic.com, www.sherryanshara.com or [email protected].

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 32, Number 4, August/September 2013.