Making decisions without fear

By staying focused on the present, you are open to all the possibilities.

by Ada Porat — 

Nothing inhibits your ability to move forward in life as much as fear — the fear of making decisions, the fear of failure and even the fear of success. It may sound surprising, but what is needed is not to remove the fear, but to find the tools for sound decision-making in spite of your fears.

Here are a few suggestions to help deal with fear:

1. Remain detached from your expectations and fears. Focus on the goal rather than on your circumstances.

2. Keep your perspective on the present moment. When we focus on the future, we feed fear and anxiety; when we focus on the past, we feed guilt, blame and regret. By staying focused on the present, you are open to all the possibilities.

3. Adapt quickly to mistakes. Rather than turning a setback into a judgment about yourself, the situation or somebody else, simply acknowledge your feelings of disappointment and take note of what you have learned from it. Then move on.

4. Be alert to tiny signals. Major turning points in life often arrive as small signals at first. Learn to see and interpret the metaphors through which life speaks to you.

5. Cultivate a healthy, balanced connection between your soul and body. You will be most effective at decision-making when you remain aware of your spiritual core guiding you through the physical challenges of life.

6. Stay flexible and embrace ambiguity. Change is sometimes a messy process. Flexibility makes it easier to release unrealistic expectations.

7. Be patient. You are a spiritual being who exists in eternity; don’t let human expectations and timelines rob you of peace.

8. Take fabulously good care of yourself. Nurture yourself with healthy food, exercise and rest, so you can have the physical resilience and stamina to realize optimal outcomes.

9. Allow your core values to guide your decisions. When your choices, actions and behaviors are aligned with your values, you won’t need to second-guess yourself.

10. Honor healthy boundaries. Learn that “no” can be a complete sentence. It is a healthy and necessary way to address external demands at a time when you are figuring out major life decisions.

11. Be discerning about the company you keep. During times of change, it is important to receive validation from people you trust.

12. Take time for meditation or contemplation. This practice will help you stay centered and at peace. It is also a powerful way to reconnect to divine inspiration and is fuel for your soul.

Together, these principles can help you fearlessly face the unknown and embrace new possibilities.


Ada Porat is an energy kinesiologist and life balance coach with extensive international teaching and clinical experience. She uses body/mind/spirit techniques to help clients develop their full potential. or 602-283-4628.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 27, Number 2, April/May 2008.

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