The authentic self

When we are able to look at the depths within, we are able to find our true selves and take the next steps forward, rather than just faking it ‘til we make it.

by Cortney Kane — 

Many of us have been raised to believe that we need to be more than who we are and that we will never be enough. The saying we hear used a lot these days is “fake it ‘til you make it.” But why do we need to fake anything? Why is it that the place we are in at this particular moment is not OK? In fact, we are exactly where we are, and that is all there is to it.

If we are constantly in a state of expansion, what makes it acceptable for us to be where we are? It is OK because we, at this moment, have the necessary knowledge to lead us into the next moment. We are complete just as we are. No authority will give us permission to be who we are. The authentic self is the part of us that is accepting, nonjudgmental and able to look at the darkest parts within us.

Examining our dark side is a necessary and natural part of the healing process that can lead us to our authentic self. Accepting what is and what was is extremely powerful for our growth as human beings. To fake it ‘til we make it does nothing but mask the truth and hinder us from being at peace in this moment.

Recently, a client had difficulty understanding that the crisis she was experiencing was something she could learn from. She had recently lost her job. She needed help recognizing her feelings of grief in relation to her job loss. She did not have to override the conflicted feelings she was having regarding her financial difficulties at the moment. She just had to be deeply in the moment.

Yet before she could consider this as a possible opportunity to make her dream of becoming a chef come true, she had to look within. As long as she held on to her anger about the loss of her job and was unable to recognize the grief underlying this anger, she would have remained stuck and unable to move forward. But once she was able to feel the deepest corners of her feelings, she was able to look at this loss as an opportunity for a greater expansion of who she truly is.

When we are able to look at the depths within, we are able to find our true selves and take the next steps forward, rather than just faking it ‘til we make it.

Cortney Kane is a psychic artist and healer who offers sessions. She is also an author, radio personality and event speaker. www.cortneykane.com or 602-315-4850.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 28, Number 6, Dec 2009/Jan 2010.